Alright, I was being alliterative with the post's title, but there's no denying that we are living in scary times. While panic is never appropriate, fear is still a natural response to the unknown. Children are especially sensitive right now. They are little sponges, soaking up everything within their environment. It's how they learn to navigate this world and become successful adults. During this time we have an even greater responsibility than usual to help our children work through their fears and answer their questions calmly and with intelligence. I have always felt it best to be honest and upfront with Michael about what was happening in his life. (I have included this link: https://www.parentscanada.com/health/ways-to-help-kids-with-covid-19-anxiety/ to Parent's Canada Magazine for more tips on how to talk to your children about COVID-19).
I don't think it's helpful to talk down to my children. Likewise, it's also not helpful to use overly complicated terms. Trust yourself to know what's best for your own child. And trust your child too. They can handle more than you think.
Case in point; we started this blog to share Michael's adventures in creating bracelets to help sick children (by raising money for associated charities). After the death of his brother David, I was honest and talked to Michael about whatever he wanted to know, answering any and all questions (in language that was appropriate for a six-year-old). At the same time he was trying to process the loss of his big brother, he was inspired by his teacher's lessons on Dr. Martin Luther King Jr.'s life. Michael's six-year-old understanding of his world at that time - grief coupled with feelings of being overwhelmed - were made manageable by following some of the teachings of MLK Jr.: "Darkest cannot drive out darkness, only light can do that." Michael realized that he could help himself by helping others.
That was Michael's coping mechanism. What is it for your child?
While I can't answer that specific question - for me, it's journaling. And I've made Michael and his sister do the same. We write in our journals after dinner almost every night (I give them the weekend off). Not only is it a great way to get your feelings off your chest; we are also living in historic times. It will be something to tell the grandchildren. (Mine and theirs!)
Your mental health and the mental health of your children are very important to us. If you are in crisis and need to speak with someone please call:1-833-456-4566 toll free (In Quebec 1-866-277-3553) 24/7 or visit www.crisisservicescanada.ca or the Children's Help Phone at 1-800-668-6868
We wish you all continued good health and happiness. We will get through this together (but separate).
With Love From Our Family To Yours,
Melody, Emily and (of course) Michael 💗
